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Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other.
- Katherine Hepburn
Women like silent men. They think they're listening.
- Marcel Archard
Source: the web
I find it curious how similar - and yet how different - the above two pictures are.
The Difference Between Men and Women in One Paragraph:
A man is driving up a steep, narrow mountain road. A woman is driving down the same road. As they pass each other, the woman leans out of her window and yells, "PIG!!" The man immediately leans out of his window and replies, "BITCH!!" They each continue on their way, and as the man rounds the next corner, he crashes into a pig in the middle of the road.
Source: somewhere on the internet
Now is the time for all good men to come to.
- Walt Kelly
The Geography of a Man
A recently divorced woman walked along the beach contemplating how badly treated she was in her divorce settlement. Just then she spied a magic lamp washed up on shore. She tried rubbing the lamp and out popped a magical genie. The genie noticed her anger and let her vent her troubles to him. As a consolation, he informed her that he would give her three wishes. But, he cautioned her, because he did not believe in divorce, he would give her ex-husband ten times the amount of whatever she wished.
The woman thought this hardly fair, but made her first wish. The first wish was for a billion dollars. The genie granted her wish and she found herself sitting on pile of a billion one-dollar bills. The genie then reminded her that her husband was now the recipient of 10 billion dollars. The woman made her second wish. The second wish was for a beautiful mansion on the shore of her own private beach. In an instant it was granted. The genie reminded again that her ex-husband now owned ten of what she wished for and pointed down the beach to a small development of mansions.
The woman took her time to contemplate her last wish. Just as the genie was about to give up on her, the woman informed the genie that she was now ready for her last wish. Before she could do this, the genie again warned her that her ex-husband would get ten times what she wished for.
"No problem," said the woman as she grinned in ecstasy. "For my last wish... I'd like to give birth to twins!
What's wrong with that joke?
For one thing, a billion dollars in $1 bills would weigh something on the order of 2 million pounds. If stacked in a single stack, they would be 18.9 miles high - which means even when placed in a "pile" for the lady to sit on, they still would've been a hazard to low-flying planes. And her ex-husband had a pile ten times that big? Naaaah. He had a pile the same size, but of $10 bills. After all the lawsuits from families in his neighbourhood who were suffocated/squashed by his wealth were settled, he probably had very little of it left.
However, she probably died in childbirth while HE went on the talk show circuit with his 20 kids and regained most of his wealth. (That's what she gets for being vindictive.)
Gotta Love Somebody?
by Leigh Catley
An Australian survey into relationships has shown 100% of young men feel they must be in a relationship to have a satisfying life. Counselling organisation Relationship Australia studied 700 couples and found despite declining marriage rates and the increase in average age at first marriage, young people still value partner relationships. The survey showed more than half believe marriage cements the relationship.
Young single men not in a relationship all reported being dissatisfied with life, while a large majority of young men in a relationship reported satisfaction with life overall. Interestingly only 35% of the young men studied said they were in a partner relationship, compared to 55 % of young women. The study also showed women have high satisfaction with their partners when they are young, but this reduces markedly later in life. Young women reported 100% satisfaction with partners, but by the time they reach their 60s, the level has plummeted to around 20%. At the same time, men in their 60s reported feeling more content with their lifetime partners.
Source: Newsroom 12th July 2001 © Newsroom
Moral? Have patience, guys...
Condemned to Be Virgins: The 2,000,000 Women Robbed by the War
Long terms statistics show that 35% of women failed to marry during their "reproductive" years
by Amanda Cable
They dreamt of love, marriage and children. But, as a new book reveals, the Great War robbed two million women of the men they would have married, leading many into relationships which could only be whispered about...
One hazy morning in 1917 the senior mistress of Bournemouth High School for Girls stood up in front of the assembled 6th form and announced to her hushed audience: "I have come to tell you a terrible fact. Only 1 out of 10 of you girls can ever hope to marry. This is not a guess of mine - it is a statistical fact. Nearly all the men who might have married you have been killed. You will have to make your way in the world as best you can. The war has made more openings for women than there were before but there will still be a lot of prejudice. You will have to fight. You will have to struggle."
Sitting in the assembly hall among her shocked and silent schoolfellows was 17-year-old Rosamund Essex. She was never to forget those chilling words, recalling: "It was one of the most fateful statements of my life." When Rosamund, who never married, wrote her memoirs 60 years later she accepted that her teacher's pronouncement had been prophetic. "How right she was," she recalled. "Only 1 of every 10 of my friends has ever married. Quite simply, there was no one available. We had to face the fact that our lives would be stunted in one direction. We should never have the kind of happy homes in which we ourselves had been brought up. There would be no husband, no children, no sexual outlet, no natural bond of man and woman. It was going to be a struggle indeed."
Rosamund, and so many of the classmates who sat with her that morning, joined what came to be known as The Surplus Two Million - women whose dreams of marriage and children died alongside their men. World War I deprived Britain of three-quarters-of-a-million soldiers, leaving as many more incapacitated. In 1919 a generation of women who unquestioningly believed marriage to be their birthright discovered there were simply not enough men to go around. The make-up of British society had changed irrevocably - as Isie Russell-Stevenson discovered to her horror. Towards the end of the war in 1918 she received a message to say that her husband, Hamilton, would be returning home from the Front. Wearing her prettiest dress, Isie waited eagerly at the docks for his boat to arrive. But the dreamed-of moment turned suddenly to nightmare. Hamilton appeared on a stretcher, mangled and clearly dying. Isie took him home and nursed him and not long afterwards he died. Isie mourned - nevertheless she was young, and the following year she was invited to a ball in London. She willed herself into the mood, did her hair and put on her ballgown. But when she walked into the ballroom, the party seemed to be women-only. "But if it's a hen party," she thought to herself, mystified, "why is every woman in full evening dress?" At last, through the crowd, she spotted a man in tails - and again through the crowd another - and then a couple more. Gradually, she realised that this pathetic clutch of males were the men who were left. There were about 10 women to every man. She recalled: "It's hard to explain. It was as if every man you had ever danced with was dead."
May Jones, the daughter of a carpenter, knew - as she held a letter informing her of her fiance's death - that she would never marry or hold a baby in her arms. Before the onset of war, May had fallen in love with Philip, a Cambridge scholar who read her poetry. When Philip - a stretcherbearer - was due to return home on leave, May was walking on air. But she wrote in her memoirs: "Then everything was shattered; a letter came from the War Office to say he had been killed in action. The shock and loss was terrible, I felt I had lost half of myself, or was it my twin soul? I knew then that I should die an old maid." She added sadly: "I was only 20-years-old."
Like a generation of other women in post-war Britain, Phyllis Bentley, born in 1894 and raised on fairy tales of love and marriage, headed for the dance halls as the best place to meet and mate. For the men, the lure of the dance was great; they could take their pick from the prettiest of the bunch. For the girls, there was the agony of waiting to be asked. Lack of men meant looks were at a premium. Phyllis was not pretty, and the competition for partners was fierce, so all too often there were awkward gaps when she was unclaimed and would sit, in the cloakroom, reading her books. Then one day a man who seemed different from the others asked her to dance. He was, she remembered "large and agreeably ugly..." He also seemed kind, warmhearted and well-read. Phyllis's heart quickened. And yet that one foxtrot when her dream took shape was painfully fleeting. She remembered: "For the space of a dance I thought my destiny was settled." Minutes later, Phyllis's partner rejoined his group. "And I perceived that he was already deeply in love with an old schoolfellow of mine, a more than pretty, intelligent, altogether delightful girl whom I greatly liked. I perceived also that she was deeply in love with him." And so the dream ended. Phyllis's ugly man married the pretty school friend within the year. Not long afterwards, in 1919, Phyllis had her second and final brush with romance. It lasted a little longer; this time the man paid court to her over several months, but then abruptly got engaged to another girl. Phyllis Bentley - who never was to marry - was one of the sober statistics of the 1921 census, which showed the imbalance of the sexes.
For those aged between 25 and 29, there were 1,209 single women for every 1,000 men. When the next census was taken 10 years later, 50% of those women were still single. Long-term statistics showed that 35% failed to marry during their reproductive years. Botched affairs, dashed hopes, the prospect of loneliness; two million women now saw their dreams slipping away from them. Women like Alix Kilroy, who confided sadly in her diary on her 26th birthday "I seem to want very badly to see some chance of matrimony in the future - for children and the physical side, too."
But other women sought solace among their own sex - with an explosion of lesbian relationships. Author Sybil Neville-Rolfe noted: "The war left behind it a generation of Eves in an Adamless Eden... Starving for love, deprived of homes and denied the joys of motherhood, many women found in friendship, one with another, some sort of substitute for these normal but lost relationships." Unlike male homosexuality, lesbianism was not illegal - and a Bill to outlaw it in 1921 failed because MPs considered that it was wiser to sweep the whole issue under the carpet. In the fashionable clubs of London's West End, women danced cheek to cheek with their female partners - unafraid of being pointed out, because the shortage of men had made this such a common sight. The writer Esther Harding noted that more and more women seemed to be adopting "a somewhat masculinised dress and manner, as well as certain masculine characteristics". Marie Stopes, the campaigner for women's rights, received many letters from single women agonising over their lesbian leanings. In 1922, a Miss L Redcliffe wrote to her saying: "I have a very strong tendency to be attracted by my own sex. I have made great efforts to overcome this - but the force of it is so strong that it seems to me most important that if there is anything I am ignorant of I should have advice..." Stopes replied: "Keep your mind off the physical side of that aspect as much as possible...I think you will find this phase passes entirely away." For some, it was a lifesaver. Denied a husband and family by the war, Elizabeth Goudge nursed her elderly mother. When her mother died, Elizabeth was racked with loneliness. A friend arranged a meeting with another single girl - and Elizabeth later recalled: "We looked at each other. I saw a young woman with a head of hair like a horse chestnut on fire, and the white magnolia skin that goes with such hair. She looked young enough to be my daughter...when I went to bed that night I found myself flooded with happiness. Jessie has stood by me for 21 years and has been the most wonderful event that ever happened to me."
Many lesbians settled down with their chosen partner for a lifetime of tender intimacy. Alice Skillicorn, principal of a teacher training college in Cambridge, met Dorothy Sergeant in the early 1930s. By week, Alice lived in college and played out her headmistressy-role to perfection. But weekends and vacations were different - the couple shared a house. They remained together for nearly 40 happy years, until Dorothy died in 1969. Broken-hearted, Alice was finally laid to rest in the same grave, with the tombstone recording their "dear and devoted friendship". But other spinsters continued with their desperate search for a husband and magazine problem pages in the 1920s dealt with a barrage of letters from women desperate to fill the gap in their lives. The following answer from the Fireside Friends page in a Woman's Friend of 1926 was addressed to "A Lonely Girl".
"I am very sorry that I cannot put you in touch with a young man, my dear, but it is against our rules to give private addresses." A little further on, the article suggests women might consider emigrating to find a husband. The sex psychologist Walter Gallichan - a popular voice of the day - urged single women to check the local population statistics when deciding where to go husband-hunting: Sussex and Leicester, he pointed out, were particularly unpromising areas to look for spare men, as they already had a disproportion of married men or surplus women. Many placed advertisements in the Press in their hope of finding any man - like the following heartfelt plea published during the war: "Lady, fiancè killed, will gladly marry officer totally blinded or otherwise incapacitated by the War." By 1921 publications like the Matrimonial Times were carrying columns of advertisements placed by spinsters and widows. They included:
The stigma of being a spinster was so fearful that many women succumbed to sex, believing they'd get a husband that way. So much so that after the war some wag suggested fixing a plaque to the wall of a famous London hotel, "To the women who fell here during the Great War". Men could take their pick and were often ruthless. Betty Milton, who was a kitchen maid, felt that at 26 her marriage prospects were receding. Life in service didn't offer many opportunities for meeting men, apart from the boy who delivered the groceries. She wasn't very keen on him, but started seeing him and eventually agreed to have sex because he promised to marry her. "I began to consider myself left on the shelf, an 'old maid'... I hated it but at 26 I was dead scared of losing him." Betty got caught by the man's mother, and her suitor fled. She was lucky not to get pregnant - society did not tolerate extramarital sex and many unmarried mothers were condemned to asylums, while their babies were put out for adoption or sent to reformatories. But with headlines like "A Million Women Too Many - 1920 Husband Hunt" from the Daily Mail, many eligible young men became afraid that every woman who approached them, however innocently, was trying to hijack them into marriage.
After her brother Edward was killed in June 1918, the writer Vera Brittain was desperate to learn the particulars of his fate, and relentlessly pursued his injured colonel, who had not only been awarded a VC but was also tall and good-looking. Despite this, Vera had no interest in him but for his knowledge of Edward's last hours; to this end she haunted his hospital bedside and took every opportunity to get him to talk. But the young colonel was vain, cold and reluctant. He seemed, she wrote: "Nervously afraid that every young woman he met might want to marry him." The more she pursued him, the more he avoided her. She was never able to get him to divulge what he knew, and finally "lost sight of him altogether". Whatever became of this self-obsessed young man, we will never know. Suffice to say, his life post-war was probably far happier than the fates of those two million young women for whom love, family and a home of their own had been shot away for ever.
Source: dailymail.co.uk 15 September 2007
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